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Hi, I'm Ryan

I'm done with dating apps and games. I know what I want—and I'm putting it out there. If you're looking for something real, keep reading.

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about

Entrepreneur. Dog Dad. Here for Real Connection.

I'm 44, based in Cabo San Lucas. I've spent 18+ years building companies—including one I scaled to $54M before selling it. I've learned a lot, lost a lot, and rebuilt with different priorities.These days, I run a software company helping small businesses, I guide entrepreneurs on personal growth, and I lead Soulstice—a wellness brand using psilocybin therapy to help people cure depression and PTSD. I left the U.S. for Cabo's climate, culture, and a better quality of life.I've been married and divorced. I've been in long-term relationships. I know what works and what doesn't. I'm at peace with my past and genuinely ready to build something meaningful with the right person.I'm plant-based (8 years now), work out regularly, prioritize sleep, and microdose as part of my spiritual practice. I don't do hard drugs or take medications. I'm intentional about what goes in my body.

LIFESTYLE

How I Actually Live.

Cabo is home base. I'd love to travel more with the right person—I have a great pet sitter and can go whenever. I'm rooted but not stuck.Here's what my days look like: I've been doing 16:8 intermittent fasting for 8 years, but that doesn't mean I can't make an exception for you. Mornings are flexible—laying in bed, gym, beach walks, whatever feels right. Coffee happens around 9:30am.I love cooking for someone—but honestly? I love being cooked for even more. I make plant-based meals that don't suck. I eat eggs, sausage, brats, burgers—just the plant-based versions. Eight years ago I switched from loving meat to figuring out what actually fuels my body best. People consistently think I'm in my mid-30s. That's not genetics. That's work.I love shooting sunsets and I've given a lot of prints to friends. I'm quick-witted (about 10:1 ratio of smart jokes to dad jokes), and I love making her laugh. Not playing class clown for a crowd—just those clever moments between two people that make you smile.Music moves me. I've gone through every genre and landed on classical and cinematic stuff that hits deep: "Sweet Heat Lightning," "On the Nature of Daylight," "Adagio for Strings No. 11."Health matters to me. It's a lifestyle and a mindset, not perfection. I want someone who gets that and values taking care of themselves.

lifestyle

Cabo. Travel. Freedom. Health.

Cabo is my home base, but I'm not rigid. I travel often and I'd love company. I'm rooted with freedom — not nomadic-chaotic, but not stuck in one place either.My lifestyle is simple but intentional:

I work out, I eat clean, and I take care of my body because I want to feel good — not to impress anyone. If you're not healthy, we aren't going to be a match. I'm sorry, but I'm not compromising on that.

NON-NEGOTIABLE

Meet Milo (+ Max the Cat)

I have a high EQ and I actually use it. I read emotional undercurrents, I'm self-reflective (not reactive), and I value accountability over excuses. I've done the work — therapy, plant medicine, hard conversations with myself — and I'm not interested in managing someone else's chaos.
My attachment style is secure now (formerly avoidant), which means I value closeness but need autonomy. I set boundaries early and walk away when things feel misaligned. I don't confuse intensity with intimacy anymore.
I want intellectual compatibility: someone who thinks independently, recognizes patterns, and can keep up in conversation. Not someone who needs constant validation or turns every disagreement into a drama production.
My communication style? Calm, direct, low-drama. I address issues early and clearly. I don't escalate — I exit. I'm not conflict-avoidant. I'm nonsense-avoidant.

THE WOMAN

High EQ. Healthy. Curious. Independent.

✨ Has a high EQ — You're self-aware, emotionally literate, and don't weaponize therapy-speak
💪 Takes care of herself — Active, healthy, not high-maintenance or obsessed with being "bougie"
🧠 Is intellectually curious — Open-minded, willing to learn, loves deep conversations
🌍 Loves travel & adventure — Comfortable with non-traditional living and flexible plans
🐕 Adores animals — Non-negotiable
💰 Is self-sufficient — You can pay for yourself. I'm not looking for someone who expects me to fund everything
🙏 Is open to spirituality — Not the religious or zodiac kind. The consciousness, growth, and exploration kind
💬 Gives compliments — I want to feel attractive and appreciated too
👨👧 Has a good relationship with her father or brothers — Healthy family dynamics matter
What I'm NOT looking for:
❌ Kids (I want to be someone's priority, and mothers can't do that — I've tried)
❌ Overly political or religious
❌ Party lifestyle or tons of drama
❌ High-maintenance or emotionally unavailable
❌ Someone with tons of male friends (boundaries matter)

THE RELATIONSHIP

Not Marriage. Not Kids. Not Casual.

I don't want to get married. I don't want kids. But I'm not looking for something casual either.Here's what I DO want:🤝 Deep emotional bond — Loyal, exclusive, but not ownership-based
🏡 Flexible living — Separate homes, or together 2-7 days at a time. We choose what works.
✈️ Travel partners — Explore the world together
📈 Growth partners — We challenge and support each other
💙 Chosen commitment — Not obligation. We stay because it enhances our lives.I want someone I can talk to and feel the vibe with. Someone who's attracted to me and shows it. Someone who wants adventure but also values quiet, present moments.If you're looking for traditional, this isn't it. If you're looking for real? Let's talk.

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I don't want to get married. I don't want kids. But I'm not looking for something casual either.Here's what I DO want:🤝 Deep emotional bond — Loyal, exclusive, but not ownership-based
🏡 Flexible living — Separate homes, or together 2-7 days at a time. We choose what works.
✈️ Travel partners — Explore the world together
📈 Growth partners — We challenge and support each other
💙 Chosen commitment — Not obligation. We stay because it enhances our lives.I want someone I can talk to and feel the vibe with. Someone who's attracted to me and shows it. Someone who wants adventure but also values quiet, present moments.If you're looking for traditional, this isn't it. If you're looking for real? Let's talk.